Time to Dump the Pity Party

How many of you have friends that tell you how pitiful their life is every time you talk to them?  Although on the surface it all looks fine,  there is always some deed to be told, some experience, something that has happened to make them miserable.  Poor me, they scream. You know the type.  It is the same old story being told on a different record.  However, the deeper question to ask yourself:  Is this you? 

How did you feel when you read that question? Was it a bit too painful to answer? There have been many times over the years that I have had to face my own demons and make changes.  My problem wasn’t pessimism; it was how I delivered my messages when frustrated. My business associates over the years have called me  harsh and demanding.  The most memorable line was from my early twenties was  “You can get so much more with sugar than with vinegar.”   As I matured and was still being told to cool the intimidation, my Reiki Master coached me to soften my power.   My reaction was frustration. Soften what, I screamed in my head?  My Power?  Are you kidding me? 

What finally became clear was that it made sense for me to change.  We all have a choice on how we put ourselves out into the world.  If you are the person we talked about above, and you complain all the time. stop it now.  Dump anyone who is not willing to change. They only bring you down. Every thought we have, every intention we share, every word has power and meaning.  My challenge to you is to identify those defeating thoughts and dump them.  Banish them from your life forever. 

Just the other day during a reading, the power of a person’s beliefs and paradigms hit me front and center.  The client cried to me, “When is it going to be my turn?”  She complained that her life had been strewn with death and abandonment.  Single, never married, and unemployed, she was devastated she had made less than twenty thousand this year and there were no prospects for more.  She begged for guidance, an exact path to take, where to live, and what to do for money.  

The universe was gentle yet firm. She wasn’t listening.  Guidance told her that she did not take heed when signs were given to her.  Our interchange went south quickly down a vicious path that never recovered. This was not what she wanted to hear. She wanted me to stop, very angry that no one had been buying her story. 

In all the years I have been reading, a client has never stormed out and left.  My first reaction was bewilderment.  When I settled back into my spirituality, it made sense that she liked riding the wave of pity that comes when she tells her story.  It serves her and had worked for many years.  There was nothing I could say or do to change that.  I had struck out.  My job was to stay inside my truth through my feminine power.  Messages are not to be altered  for delivery.  Either way, it was a reminder; stay inside your core power and do not let other sway you with their negativity, even if the path is painful.